If the best method to break up is in person, where's the best place you ask?
In public, say most of About.com's Guide to Dating readers. But think about it this way: do you really want to go over to their place and tell them in private? What if they pepper you with questions, tears, or worse?
Any reasonably attractive woman who posts a profile online instantly gets DOZENS of responses... What does a woman usually do when she gets bombarded with emails? Not one to easily give up, I took matters into my own hands.
Typically, she'll start mass deleting the emails and unless your email contains SOMETHING that grabs her attention, yours gets deleted as well. But I was determined NOT to have to face the 'old-fashioned' way of meeting women again -- in clubs, bars, social events, etc. I decided to use a strategy that no one had ever used before... Because I'm a direct response marketer by profession, I decided to take a "scientific approach" to online dating.
Much like a first date location, you want to give your soon-to-be-ex the bad news somewhere that they can feel safe yet not so safe they'll want to yell, scream or otherwise make a scene. What if you do it at your place, and they won't leave when you've said your peace?
Not only will they associate that day with the relationship ending for a long time to come, but it'll likely ruin the festivities too.
Never easy but, unfortunately, necessary in most of our lives at least once, breaking up really is hard to do.
But how do you break up with someone maturely, with class, and grace - while still cutting relationship ties?
Read every word of this eye-opening article, and I'll give you solid proof that anyone -- including you -- can easily do what I've done. The more women you hit on, the more you'll score." But that kind of shotgun approach to dating was not for me. rather than continuing to torture myself further with constant rejection, I turned to online dating sites.
I'm about to tell you the story of how I went from being a "dateless nerd" to being called the "Don Juan of Online Dating" -- having the longest string of women derived exclusively from online dating sites After suddenly finding myself in the "singles arena" again after years of being in a relationship ... To make matters worse, I was absolutely petrified of approaching women -- and my lame efforts to ask women out always failed miserably. I couldn't deal with the paralyzing rejection I had to endure to find the women who would finally agree to go out with me -- and then, those women always turned out to be the "bottom-of-the-barrel," if you know what I mean. They were still fairly new back then -- and they seemed like a good idea. Rather than wasting my time trolling bars, clubs, parties, social events, the gym, or any of the usual "fishing spots" on the off-chance I'd get "lucky" and meet women, I thought it would be much easier to sit in front of my computer, join an online dating website, and e-mail all the attractive women I can find from the comfort of my own home -- without having to suffer excruciating rejection because the encounters, at least initially, are not done face-to-face. I wasn't prepared for the frustrating lack of response I would get from the e-mails I sent to women. I thought my e-mails were unique, polite, cute, clever, interesting, sensitive -- and everything I imagined a woman would want in a man. (If you've ever joined an online dating site, this has probably been your experience, too.) What was I missing?!?
He calls the technique 'charging neutral', where the person speaking changes their tone and removes whatever emotional message they can, so that their words seem completely neutral.