Here we pretend that we are simpler than we really are and that too much psychology might be nonsense and fuss about nothing.
We lean on a version of robust common-sense to ward off intimations of our own awkward complexity.
We bury our personal stories beneath an avalanche of expertise.
The possibility of a deeply consequential intimate enquiry is deliberately left to seem feeble and superfluous next to the supposedly grander task of addressing a conference on the political strategies of Dona Maria the First or the life-cycle of the Indonesian octopus.
We write dense books on the role of government bonds in the Napoleonic wars or publish extensively on Chaucer’s influence on the mid-19th century Japanese novel.
bcos he is needy i find him annoying and there is no spark, but bcos it has been 3 years, i really dont no how to get out. we fussed all the time i couldnt even use the bathroom cause he would stand outside the door and wait for me to come out how creapy is that????
The results were similar for men, except dishevelled appearance took the top spot, shoving laziness into second place, while the fifth most commonly-cited deal-breaker for the chaps was living more than three hours away, rather than bad sex.
The researchers said it is likely that women have evolved to be more picky because the stakes are higher for them, in that they are the ones who get pregnant, so they must choose a suitable mate who will help them successfully raise their child.
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Our neglect of the awkward sides of ourselves buckles our very being, emerging as insomnia or impotence, stuttering or depression; revenge for all the thoughts we have been so careful not to have.