But the choice to date someone may have unexpected implications—especially if that person does not share your religion, Summer says. Bhaskarabhatla ’09, who is Hindu, says he thinks “a relationship shouldn’t focus on a person’s religious tradition and background but mainly on personal characteristics and compatibility.” His parents would not agree.
In deciding who they want to date, most college students say they do not think about marriage or children.’” Muslim student Zain Khalid ’08 says that since most Muslim students do not date, they do not have to confront the implications of dating someone from a different faith.Khalid adds that, when it comes to marriage, an interfaith relationship is not a problem as long as the person is a Christian or a Jew, according to Islamic theology.“[Dating someone of a different faith] means you’re making them first before God,” he adds.But Gillis says he realizes that, theology aside, the reality of interfaith dating is more complicated.“It’s all in the heart and the intentions,” he says. Skoda ’07, who is also Christian, disagrees that an interfaith relationship might strain a person’s relationship with God.
“[An interfaith relationship] might create more dialogue between you and God,” Skoda says.