Men are still largely going to prefer young, thin women.
Women are still going to prefer tall, successful men.
I swear to God, I have heard this complaint every single day for nearly a decade. So let’s play the game I play with my clients on the phone: : Then why would you expect the percentage to be any higher online?
If, by definition, 95% of men are wrong for you, it should be expected that many will be unemployed, uneducated, older and inappropriate. They’re allowed to take a crack at you, and you’re allowed to ignore them. Focus on what you can control – YOU – and let go of what you can’t – MEN.
All we can do is tackle this confidently, and not get too thrown by the many bumps in the road.
The man who wants you is going to WANT a curvy girl.
I’m wondering if this is why guys will view me a lot, but won’t make contact.
Except this isn’t true either, because most people feel duped by the disconnect between your description and real life stature. It is misleading and can only serve as a tool that makes you feel rejected.
Heavier people almost always do better in “real life” than online. Should 988 men feel rejected because you didn’t initiate contact? If no one’s WRITING to you, however, there is something to think about.
Let’s start with you, because a) you wrote me the note, and b) you’re an online dating anomaly – an honest size 10 who doesn’t claim to be athletic and toned.
However, after talking to your male co-workers and observing that you’re not being contacted, you have to be asking yourself – is it REALLY in my best interests to tell the truth if 95% of guys are going to dismiss me for doing so?
I have been online dating for about two months and it’s been so-so thus far. I’m 5’3″ and an hourglass-ish size 10, so while I’m not obese, I’m definitely not “athletic and toned.” I chose pictures that I think accurately show this.