But if you want to leave, let’s leave,’ his girlfriend said.Often, she would say something she didn’t mean, and Andre took her literally. Some of the women who frequent them are looking specifically for western men and not all of them are looking for a long-term (or honest) relationship.
‘You know, she did the same thing to me,’ Andre said. Frank, an American man, dated many Russian women before meeting his current Japanese girlfriend.Compared to the Russian women he dated, Frank finds her very accommodating.For instance, when he wants to see a certain film, she usually goes with what he wants.They walked around the lake to enjoy the beautiful scenery. In the course of a conversation where she accused him of doing all the wrong things, she brought up the incident, saying that she had actually wanted to stay, and blamed him for not taking her hint. When he was dating her the second time, she was cheating on her husband. He was always looking for a serious relationship, but the girls from those bars didn’t want the same thing.They wanted to explore the area more, but in order to do that they had to take the ropeway. They joined the queue, even though they were a bit put off by its length. Looking back, that was just one of their numerous miscommunications. The ‘bars’ they talk about are western-style bars which are relatively rare in Japan.
‘I should’ve known better because I met her in a bar,’ James says. Joshua, a Kenyan man, has mixed experiences of dating in Japan.