As I’ve said before, there’s a difference between being ready to date and being ready for a relationship.
Women have a right to be wary if you just want to date for three months and move on.
However, I have to point out to women reading this and nodding that in ANY relationship, you CAN’T know after date 1, month 1 or month 3 that you’re destined to spend forever together. However, if you discover through the process of dating, that in fact, you’re just looking to have fun for a little while, make sure you don’t allow any woman to invest too deeply in you.
That’s the risky part of making yourself vulnerable, even though you know, full well, that 99% of relationships that get started don’t end up at the altar. Or go out of your way to find a woman who is recently separated or divorced, just like you. Just be totally upfront about where you are emotionally, and let her decide.
My ex-wife and I were physically separated for almost 10 months, mentally separated longer than that.
Contrary to what some might say, that’s called “dating”. The issue is that most women don’t want to get emotionally involved with someone who could be considered high-risk.
A man who is freshly out of a dead marriage may be highly tempted to sow his oats for a while, or, at the very least, not settle into domestic bliss so soon after his separation.
A little thoughtfulness will pay big dividends when you co-parent with your ex-spouse and want a good relationship with your children.
In Texas, you technically commit adultery if you have sexual relations with someone other than your spouse before your divorce is final.
I tell my clients it’s not a good idea to date until the divorce is final – there are too many complications.