When all else fails it is better to let the person know that you would like to set up another time to work this through.
You must be willing to see how you are contributing to your own distress.
As you learn more about yourself you will grow and your children will benefit from your healthy modeling behavior.
It will take determination and self-control but it will lead to a healthier "you." Here are some tools to keep with you and practice when faced with difficult behavior from your former spouse.
You’ve heard that old saying, “I don’t want you but I don’t want anyone else to have you.” You may find yourself divorced from someone who feels it is fine that they have moved on with their life but can’t stand the idea of you doing the same.
This sort of ex will do whatever it takes to sabotage any new relationship you form.
If you don't give up trying to fix them, get them to understand or validate your hard work, you will continue to feel powerless and a victim of your former spouse's behavior.Consider that this co-parenting situation with your former spouse is a spiritual test. When we are trying to cope with a stressful event or stressful people we can go into three modes of unhealthy responses.The immediate goal is to resolve the current issue, but the ultimate goal is to walk away from any interaction no matter how unpleasant with a greater connection to your soul. We can go into flight - withdraw physically or emotionally, we can go into fight mode - attack or defend or we can freeze, stay put but go physically numb and block out most of what is happening.Take a deep breath and do not respond for a moment. Feel your feet on the floor, connect with your breathing and drop your shoulders.As you connect and relax your body your thoughts will slow down.
They have never really let go of their mates and will hang on for dear life all the while undermining your ability to co-parent with them and move on to a new life.