At the time, about a year before I came out, it was thrilling to connect with people who were gay and bi (queer identity hadn’t become a big thing yet), around my age, and having similar experiences.
We helped each other figure things out: our selves, our sexuality, our life situations, etc.
For these reasons, I put together a rough guide to online dating.
What I have been told in conversations on the topic is that it’s significantly less fucked up.
Many online dating platforms have become impersonal, dehumanizing, and largely anonymous, especially on gay cis-men-focused platforms.
I can’t imagine my first experiences with queer community being Grindr, Adam4Adam, Manhunt, Jack’d, Hornet, etc.
With the support of both online and IRL (in real life) friends, I came out to many of my friends and family members via e-mail and AIM.
I was part of the first generation of kids to grow up with the Internet, and I was part of the first generation of queer kids to come out on the Internet.