Determine why his behavior bothers you, says Michelle Tillis Lederman, author of The 11 Laws of Likability.
Is using nicknames (albeit borderline-insulting ones) part of the office culture?
I have a call in five minutes." Before he gets too comfy, remind him, "That call is in two minutes, so we need to wrap this up." Mrs. Stress-y Pants, everything is a major ordeal: filling out her timesheet, planning a meeting, deciding which restaurant to order lunch from—you name it.
Though you can't control her actions, you can control your reactions, says human resources expert Cy Wakeman, author of Reality-Based Leadership. If she's too flustered to accept your assistance, try to explain that she's making the situation seem more stressful than it is.
If you're comfortable speaking up, it's completely appropriate to ask her to stop her annoying behavior, says Lenkov.
However, if you're not her superior, she may view your request as confrontational.
You can also lead by example by commending the entire team—"Client X signed on with our group"—instead of taking all the credit with a first-person statement, such as "I wrangled Client X into signing on." Lastly, it can help to encourage the non-self-promoters to speak up, so The Spotlight Stealer doesn't get to play "the hero" every time.
As soon as he swings by, announce a "hard stop": "What's up, Sam?
No matter how lovely most of your coworkers are, there are always a few personality types that tend to bring down office morale. Stress-y Pants or The "No" Man make your nine-to-five life miserable.
Below, our experts' tips on how to deal with the most annoying workplace dispositions in order to have a less stressful work day.
Wakeman recommends asking her questions, like "What are you believing in this moment? " Hopefully she'll start to see that the reality of what's going on isn't as bad as she's making it out to be.
But, if it seems like you can't add immediate value to her problem-solving or that she might boil over any minute, simply walk away and move on with your day.
Start conversations by letting him speak first and asking open-ended questions: "Andy, what do you like about our current email platform?