It’s basically a gently teasing challenge, and sets the tone that you aren’t grovelling for her attention.What Is It About Her That You Like: Your immediate follow-up; what part of her profile is it that made you click on “message her”.In theory, it is supposed to be a cute and flirty way to tell someone that you’re interested in them, get them to check out your profile and maybe send you a message. They expend time and energy waiting checking her activity dates, wondering if she got that message, if he should send a second one… Approaching women out in the world is like spear-fishing – one at a time.In reality, it’s seen as a passive-aggressive way of trying to bait someone else into making the first move. At worst, you’ve just sent the wrong message A proper first contact message is convoluted; you want to set certain expectations and convey an attractive image of yourself. It sounds a little cold-blooded and impersonal, but you’re going to want to have a stock first message. Treat approaching women on online dating sites should be like dynamite fishing; you want to toss your messages out there and see what floats to the surface.
“I guess it was that you said you love Neil Gaiman’s graphic novels; have you ever read ‘American Gods’? You want to make it clear that you’re intrigued by what she’s had to say about herself.
Instead, you want to start with”You look like you might be interesting.” “You seem like you could be cool.” “Something about your profile intrigues me.” See the common thread here?
First of all: that attracts you, but you’re still holding back some in the hopes that she’ll prove herself to be as interesting as you might think.
Why You’re Contacting Her: You aren’t going to mention anything about her physical appearance.
If you weren’t attracted to her, you wouldn’t be writing to her in the first place, and it sounds like a pick-up line at best.
You are approaching her almost as though you are auditioning her; approaching her as though you are begging for her attention is just going to make you look like a loser. Now, as for the structure: The Subject Line: The subject line is the first line of defense you have to get past.