People inherently understand and are attracted to others who “understand” that part of their life.”Another draw of getting involved with a co-worker is the excitement coupled with the “safety” of dating somebody you’ve already gotten to know.
Gregg Ward, Workplace Consultant puts it this way: “There are a lot of “creeps” (both men and women) out there in the world; dating and falling for someone you work with is a lot easier/safer than trying to meet someone in clubs, bars, etc.
For example, giving raises/promotions to a subordinate simply because of a relationship he/she has with a superior or the perception of the relationship having an impact exists.”And don’t forget about sexual harassment. Even if the relationship was consensual, you always run the risk of a sexual harassment claim from the subordinate who can claim feeling pressured to continue the relationship out of fear of losing their job.
However, Janet Blair Page, Ph D sees this type of romance in a slightly more favorable light: “The up side is that if the relationship works either as a romance or closer friendship, the subordinate wins more intimacy with no downside and the subordinate wins a lover and/or friend and possibly protector and mentor as well.”What to Do When Romance is Unavoidable Some office romances go beyond the excitement of a mere fling; they’re the real thing.
Another reason work and romance rarely mix is it can put a serious hamper on job performance.
You may find yourself taking longer lunches together or finding ways to sneak off to be alone.
The person you’re dating may already be in a committed relationship.
Imagine the embarrassment of finding this out through a nasty phone call or email from a furious significant other!
Constant scrutiny can drive a quick wedge between you.
Romance in the Workplace – The Good These days, people spend the bulk of their time at work, which makes the temptation to start an office romance strong. You get a feel for their intelligence, personality and ethic and this can create a type of chemistry that could lead to something more.
Also, when you date somebody at work, they “get” you and the pressures of your job.
Normally, you would reprimand the person but considering the relationship, your hands are now tied.
Supervisor/employee office romances may also lead to legal consequences. explains, “Now, in addition to the awkwardness the relationship undoubtedly will create, there is a legal issue with respect to potential harassment or discrimination claims.
If you and the person you’re dating believe this is something lasting, it’s best to disclose the relationship with a supervisor or management above both your positions for a fair analysis of the situation. Dimoff, CPP explains how some companies are taking office romance policies a step further, “Many companies today are creating “Love Contracts” for people that are dating each other from the same company.